Based on comments

As I got some interesting comments on my article ‘Tamil culture and my view on it’, it induced me to write something about the actual dowry system which was in practice in the traditional Tamil culture and how now it has been changed. There is a great discrepancy between what was introduced and what is being practiced. In the traditional culture, men had to give a huge amount of money and assets to the brides’ families. This kind of a dowry system is in practice in countries such as Kenya and some other. But at the current era, people had changed the actual system which was created and most of them are even not aware of it. Anyhow according to my view, both systems are not suitable to the current world. And a common complaint is there that women belong to bride grooms’ families seem to force grooms to ask dowry. This is somewhat a desecrated characteristic of most women in our society. Anyhow what I am saying is guys are guts less to say that they are never going to do it. If they are good enough at earning and self confident, who else can force them? Only others can influence but the decisions are in your hands.

So bored

Nowadays I am so bored of looking at newspapers and magazines. What is the point of seriously discussing about the x boyfriends of Angelina Julie and about the girls go behind Salmaan and Tom Cruise? I know there are some useful stuffs in magazines. But you may have noticed, mostly front pages would contain a hot shot of a beauty and would be titled in a third class way. Generally the ones who buy these magazines are consciously forced to buy because of those hot topics and shots. So they never touch other serious issues. Simply they are not the targeted customers. Accordingly there is no loyalty for the magazine. If another person publishes hotter topic than you, purely customers will switch to them. Some say ‘this is kind of a promotion’. But how do you say this is kind of promotion for your magazine since you are selling the unknown sides of popular ones? This is just a gossip. Gossips make no useful results. Simply another better gossip provider may lead the market tomorrow. But no longer even he will vanish. If you really want a success in this industry, you have to do a research on who are really interested on reading the issues that you are focusing on. Then you select a target and focus your issues based on them. Also keeping an eye on the changes of your target customers’ tastes will further help in improving. People who buy you for Britney spears or Angelina Julie or who ever, they won’t even bother to loyal you. But if you really offer some value to your readers, then definitely you will have a group of people who always prefer you. Even at the recession times, you don’t need to worry.

Tamil culture and my view on it

In my point of view, culture is common for all human beings. It doesn’t matter whether you are wearing a saree or T Shirt or whatever it is. Whatever you are doing should be in a decent manner. So it becomes a common way of differentiating humans from other animals. Why I selected this topic is because many cultures try to force so many things on part of females and mostly they forget to talk about men. So it makes a doubt on the persons who wrote the rules and regulations and it seems cultures bit stimulate male dominance. The traditional Tamil culture had this feature and now it has been improved a lot. All Traditional Tamil literatures illustrated women as a supernatural being and they made a perception such as women are made only to worship their husbands. And they almost forced several things on part of women and taught if they fail to do, they will get hell after death. The main reason for why literatures stimulated male dominance is because the persons who had written many of those literatures were men since women were uneducated and they spent most of their time inside their homes and died without even knowing the outside world. What I am mentioning here is only suitable for middle class families. Women born in the families of kings and lords had numerous opportunities to prove their talents in polities and other areas. Queens became the advisors of kings and did a lot for arts. On the hand, women belonged to lower class families had an urgency to go outside for work and they helped men in finding sources for their financial needs. Anyway later on, poet Bharathi voiced strongly for Tamil women and against to the cast system. He was first to say women are equal to men and tried to make an awareness through his poems on the point of that women needed education. Anyhow they are the stories of past. Now the situation is changed. But the prime weak points of this culture remain the same. Here the mentionable things are the systems of dowry and cast. Still we are brave less to marry a person from a different cast. Why I am saying ‘brave less’ is because most of us are vulnerable to the society and are spending major part of our lives in asking ourselves ‘what others will think of us if we do marry a person from a different cast?’. Guys are guts less to marry girls without dowry. It is most suitable on part of Sri Lankan Tamils who belong to north and east especially the ones who live abroad. Now a mentionable percentage of us have started to feel like shy when speaking in Tamil and most importantly we started to refuse to introduce us as Tamils and at most cases we forget it is the same to killing our mums. What the funny thing is that the ones who never want to say them Tamils seem to get more dowry and they strictly follow the cast system. So they are not fully westernized and don’t like to be real Tamils and so that they are middle of the road. I have no idea on how to call them. There is no doubt in we are following the Tamils who live in Moricious. So no longer we will forget every single word in Tamil and are trying loose our identity. Anyway what I can observe in Tamil culture is that it has scores of things to be improved and some rubbish to be thrown out. Furthermore what I want to tell here is; there is no shy in speaking in the mother tongue. The best language is the mother language and there is no other option to express your feelings in a best way.