Tuesday, December 1, 2009
Based on comments
As I got some interesting comments on my article ‘Tamil culture and my view on it’, it induced me to write something about the actual dowry system which was in practice in the traditional Tamil culture and how now it has been changed. There is a great discrepancy between what was introduced and what is being practiced. In the traditional culture, men had to give a huge amount of money and assets to the brides’ families. This kind of a dowry system is in practice in countries such as Kenya and some other. But at the current era, people had changed the actual system which was created and most of them are even not aware of it. Anyhow according to my view, both systems are not suitable to the current world. And a common complaint is there that women belong to bride grooms’ families seem to force grooms to ask dowry. This is somewhat a desecrated characteristic of most women in our society. Anyhow what I am saying is guys are guts less to say that they are never going to do it. If they are good enough at earning and self confident, who else can force them? Only others can influence but the decisions are in your hands.
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An informative one.
ReplyDeleteIt was the practice of Muslim people. In Dravider culture, it was always the opposite. Guys or girls whoever come forward to against this dowry system should be always welcome. There are no differences between guys or girls in decision making.
ReplyDeletePersonally I feel most of the people (particularly women) on their marriage, are affected by horoscope (Chart) system rather than dowry and it creates a potential for dowry.
ReplyDeleteHoroscope is another system in our society that has no logic. And what most of the parents miss to look is whether their sons' or daughters' partners have the same or similar policies. They forget that their children' life will be wasted if they get a person who are having against policy or taste.
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