Again... a short foot print of my life

Ah....I am back to my blog after a very long time....as I too have entered into a life that is stuffed with some hard schedules. It seems I am going on the right track though I feel bit of bored at times...yes, everything has a successful and meaningful end, which I believe in my life’s too....Nothing has a perfectionism and an everlasting behaviour in life....My short remaining in my hometown in the  last two months was quiet flourishing and memorable. My new teaching experience, my lovable students, fun and all the memories seem be enchanting...my first teaching experience, all my students who have now become my good friends, funs that we had in the classrooms...all such memories remain green in my mind believing it as another important period in my time...a new career in which I have an absolute advantage for my future  and for my foremost dream of starting my own business. Mmm...I am too slightly entering into my new business opportunities, and to a new career with an absolute chance of achievement. My short remaining in my hometown too reminds me about the past, that lovely life we had once upon a time, about my mother, her dreams, her death, how days went critical when she was hospitalized, and about one of my uncle who doesn’t survive at the moment in the world...everything comes into my mind..yes, nothing is going to everlast other than the lovable memories that our souls leave and remind in each stages of life. Mmm....this is not just about my family....I too remember how Jaffna was some years back..how people suffered...how they endeavored for their freedom...how many people died and now how it has turned to be a painful memory. Again, I like to mention about a story of a woman whom I met during these two months....yes she is pretty...she used to tell me that her husband lives in Colombo...however, I was quiet keen to understand that something seems wrong with her. Yes, she lived in Vanni..she has lost her husband and her daughter during war..now she just stays with her mother and her second daughter. I could do nothing for her other than I shocked at that news. So, my short staying in Jaffna has given me a lot of memeories...both delightful and painful. I also should mention about my sister’s daughter who is just about two years and the naughtiest things that she has done to me whenever I open my laptop. Mm....now I am preparing my life for a new beginning believing sincerely that I am going to achieve all my dreams. This is again a small foot print of my life...I know there are many more that I will learn in future...there are more birds to come into my life..whatever it is, I know I am going to get it.           

Gift of being guiltless

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It seems time is passing quiet fast and the things of course have changed a lot. I am now listening to everything that happens around me both with my concern and without, taking note of everything, learning on the realities, worrying at them, at times accepting them as they and at all instances, am being quiet. There would be no other best thing in this world than being what you are and to get the ones who still love you with your weaknesses and to make a lovely life with them. When I talk about the reality, I do really doubt how many people actually showing their real faces when they pass us on a road, when they smile, and at all cases there is a possibility where two or more people meet. I am bored of looking at these artificial faces who smile for money, status and for other material things. Two months ago, I had been in Jaffna my hometown; I was actually looking for the innocent faces, the real smile they had and for the people who were with me in my past and the beautiful memories that they left. However, it has taken time for me to realize that the Jaffna in my mind was there several years back, what is being there now is just a place, and the guiltless has gone far away from them. But I know, this is not a thing that can be criticized because they all are made to change like that and yes, now I even have changed or most probably, I am made to change like that. I now have learned how to smile, walk, and talk and to do everything in an artificial way and this cannot be complained at all because this world doesn’t allow real innocent people to be such always. But I do remember, it is something like a small dot of light in a dark night, I met a girl in a bus when I was in Jaffna two months ago, who was about sixteen or seventeen years old. The bus was crowded and later, the woman who was sitting near to her seat had left and that girl touched my hands and told me to sit there. I just travelled around twenty minutes in that bus and she started talking to me like a person who knew me before. She gave me some peanuts, she talked about everything, about her family, how they came to Jaffna and about many things, and she was a pure village girl. As to what she said, she was in Vanni and due to the war, they displaced to Jaffna, and she had lost two of her sisters in war and now there are only three people in her family. She told that there was a best friend to her who looks just as me, and now having no contacts with her due to that they are separated due to the war. She had written the O/Level examination and told that she really love to study further but there was a serious shadow in her face, which doubted whether she could do it as they even suffer to make having their lunch everyday. I just got her number; I know I cannot help her now but in future will see if I can help her, I said bye and got down from the bus and till the bus went so far, she was smiling at me. I am sure that she was sad to say bye for me, a person who just talked to her for twenty minutes. Mm.but I don’t know whether she will be the same after some years later also, will she? Will this world allow her to be so?   

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A look at women in war and war literatures

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Time to time, wars occur in this world regardless of penchant of any living being on this earth and at most times wars are forced. In very early days, homo-erectus who were the earliest generation of human-evolution had fights with other animals and the only purpose behind the fights was to get food and it made no harms to the environment. But later on, the evolution itself urged needs for fights and the behind reasons also started growing. When the stage of human evolution turned to be homo-sapiens from the stage of homo-erectus, these small fights also became wars since the reasons had been turned to be ambitions focused. But it is not a thing to be said proudly that it is a sign of evolution as very obviously, each war owes desecrated records of stories and each drop of blood which is spoiled in the roads was used for creation, then this world would have been somewhere else. But here what I want to tell is that the word war itself is seen as a fact that is more supportive to masculine gender. The traditional literatures related to wars criticize feminine as much vulnerable to wars or as reasons for the occurrence of wars. A very popular traditional Tamil literature ‘Ramayana’ illustrates a woman called Seetha as the reason for the war occurred between Rama who was the king of Ayothi in India and Ravana who was the king of Sri Lanka. Though the literature explicitly says ‘Seetha’ as the reason for war, but when going deeply into the literature it can be observed that the prime reason was the ‘haughtiness and dominance of Ravana who was the king of Sri Lanka’. In my view, whenever wars occur, it happens due to two reasons which are the advantages taken by the dominant side and the vulnerable aspects of the other side and it can be simply said due to the ‘cheap mentality of human beings’ and their inexpensive perception which is ‘they can dominate the whole world’ which will never happen. As the best example  ‘Hitler’s German as the heart of the world’ concept can be considered. So when a person or people mislead with some specific advantages that they have got, it is obviously harmful to the people who don’t have it. Thus from this harmful side, always an opposition is influenced with a specific leadership and this is the ultimate point where wars start. But all the war literatures focus much on stimulating ‘heroism’ which is only consecrated to masculine or they criticize women as factors which are so far away from war or much vulnerable or even as reasons for the occurrence of wars. Let’s take the Vietnam War literature; it only focuses creating heroism for the American soldiers who were sent to Vietnam against communists. What literatures try to criticize about women in war is only on how they were harmful to the war, how they were used as motivators of men in war. But the reality says it different. According to Gillian Courtney in the article of Contribution of women in revolution of America, it is mentioned that a lot of women made significant levels of contributions to revolutions especially it rewards women such as Margaret Cochran Corbin and Mary Ludwig Hays who directly contributed to the victory. Even in the eastern world, women such as Jansi Rani can be rewarded in the top position for the revolution against Slavism. But I think the very traditional Tamil literatures talk much about women and wars. Literatures such as ‘purananuru’, and ‘kalithokai’ have given significant importance to women and they say young girls gave high priority to marry the soldiers and a mother’s story was quiet popular in puranauru and the story is short enough as follows. A mother had seven children and she had already lost her husband in war. So she decided to send her children for the warfare and according to her decision, six children were sent and they were killed by enemies. Then also she sent her last child which was an infant and it also was killed and alas, she went and died. So I think very traditional Tamil literatures have given a good space for women which truly lacks in the modern literatures even. Also the other thing that war literatures forget to talk about is the normal people’s lives especially on how they were treated by dominant parties, how painful was their bunger lives and how their blood and energy were spoiled. But Golden Age a novel by Thamima Anam gives an excellent output outlined on normal people’s lives and their circumstances occurred during Afhan war. Though war is a perfect desecration, by all the means, war literatures must arise and they will help others who were not affected by war for an understanding on how painful it is and of course it will be a good realization on truths. The only fact that can be said proudly about anyone who fails in the war is that at least they were not cowardice and did something ambitiously and yes in reality, women do a lot.

In my view, inconsistency and the reasons for why it exists

Very recently I met a person saying ‘discrepancies must remain in this world’. I was really shocked and asked why it is so and his reply was “if everyone has money, then there will be no rich or poor people in this world. People who are rich work hard and that’s why they are rich and others are not” this was his opinion. But does it seem to be the only reason as that friend perceived? I do agree that all rich and popular people in this world are hard-workers and because of their hard-work only they could achieve such a position. But does it mean that a poor one not having any dreams to become rich and not working hard? Actually lower class or blue collar people are the ones working much hard and very sadly they get lower income. They work for today, live for today, looking to solve today’s problems and that’s it they are happy on it. But I think this might be the reason for why they remain poor for the whole life and if they also think about tomorrow, they would try to earn more but the certainty is that these people are much happier than those who are rich. Anyway in my view, there are four major facts influencing in the aspect of discrepancy in such a way why this inconsistency exist in this world. First thing is that there are people who always want this discrepancy to remain and they take advantage of vulnerable people or societies, they ensure their domination with some specific advantages they have such as power, money and status or whatever. Second fact itself is the vulnerable societies, they may want to overcome the problems they have but they can’t or they need to work hard to achieve it but most of the times, all their efforts will despoiled by dominators. Third fact is there are people who always take or habitually make benefits by standing between these two parties and they act like helping to those poor ones but actually not, at times they might be the representatives of dominant parties and what becomes their plus point is that they are very good at making people to believe at them in their ‘double-dealing business’. The last and least fact is that some of these vulnerable or poor or despoiled societies not knowing about what they have really loosen or how they have been despoiled or they know it but not trying to do anything as they are tired of working, as their efforts are wasted at each stage where they put their soul to improve them and as alas they have no hopes in that their lives also will be lighted one day. In a same city, some people’s worries may be on how they can make them to shine in a party, some may worry on how to earn more, some may worry on what to do next and some may even doubt on whether they can have their breakfast or not. I see the needs are decided by discrepancy, behaviors, life and life-style are decided by one particular aspect which is ‘inconsistency’ in this world and the way how people are treated get changed according to their classes. Anyway it is not to say only this particular area decides the life; there are things that may change the life and why not the whole world so will believe everything will change considering change is the only thing that has no end forever. But it is not logical to expect dominators to change their views, mentality and to have good hearts understanding the feelings of people who owe less or no power, resources and status or whatever the factors making influences in a fact call lobbying with other parties. So I think a change must be initiated from the side that has a need of improvement or development and then only existing inconsistencies might at least have a move towards equality.

Only to have good memories

I am on my blog after a very long time seeing it is nothing specifically on my mind to write on. But obviously I didn’t write for more than one month and was really rushing with my studies. This seems to be the important stage of my life. Every day new faces, different experiences, dreams and learning from it. Each and every second of this life is precious as they are not going to return anymore whether they make me happy or not. It was once upon a time when people’s life was only limited to some close friends and only within some places such as their work-place and home. But now companies’ even seeking for personnel who are multi-talented and concept of being an ‘all-rounder’ has become crucial. So this pushes you doing a lot. When you are to do a lot, you need a lot of people who will be helping on it. But obviously people helping and at the same time they make considerable level of inconveniences. It becomes really hard to find what they actually thinking but their mouths say different words with a smile. Psychology only can be used to discover whether a person lying or not. But nowadays people are smarter than they were some years back and they know how to be steady even when they are lying. I would like if someone can invent a machine that actually tells what the other person thinks in the mind. I am writing it because I have had some experiences during last month with someone whose behaviors are hard to predict. Anyway each person has a good side as well another that seems so hard to predict. Only thing that can be a solution for everything is to understand and accept both the good and bad sides since it becomes not so logical to expect a person to be perfect at all. As I mentioned earlier, time will never be returned so it is better only having good memories. Even this minute in which am writing, also cannot be got again. I had almost nothing in my mind when started writing and in the middle I remembered something that happened few days back and it has automatically dragged my fingers in the keyboard to write on.

Are we so reluctant (from a Tamil’s perspective being a Tamil myself)

Being a Jaffna Tamil, I’ve been proud and will be for the whole life because us is the only society that still successfully survives with all kinds of circumstances, wounds and all unforgettable tearful memories of war. In any corner of the world, our people are there and other than some desecrated stories, others are doing well. What I meant by ‘desecrated stories’ is that most of our guys are surviving in such jobs which are really not suitable or not up to their standards. Even most of them find it as a ruin of their ‘self esteem’ and a painful way of living but what to do? They have spent a lot on going to such countries and of course they have lost a lot. Anyway they have to earn and this is one part of the ‘western Tamil society’. Other part remains somewhat green and it contributes those who had gone there several years ago and have stared their own businesses. It is strongly encourage able since these people don’t depend on anyone else and is good sign of achievement while being a war affected society. But what really lack with their business is that they are just satisfied with earning more than enough dollars or pounds or whatever but are failing in building good branded businesses. Might be because we are habited to think inside a small circle and it really stimulates a negative view on being creative. Here the war cannot be a reason since I am talking about those who had already gone abroad and enjoying a very comfortable life with ‘self employment’. If I have not mistaken, most of those people are involved in businesses such as’ supermarkets’ and ‘restaurants’. I do really happy that they are doing well, earning good profits but what if they do it in a large scale and brand it properly and adds some value to our society too? From each country, there are some guys who lead industries and they add values to their societies. Inside Sri Lanka also the same thing applies. What we do is we just complete our degrees and even masters and looking for a company to give a job, we do get it and staying there until the retirement and. I guess we are so fundamentals, so far away from entrepreneurship, so reluctant to think out of the box, so reluctant to keep our pairs of eyes to see this world differently and now we are in a position to think about it. Isn’t it?