Only to have good memories

I am on my blog after a very long time seeing it is nothing specifically on my mind to write on. But obviously I didn’t write for more than one month and was really rushing with my studies. This seems to be the important stage of my life. Every day new faces, different experiences, dreams and learning from it. Each and every second of this life is precious as they are not going to return anymore whether they make me happy or not. It was once upon a time when people’s life was only limited to some close friends and only within some places such as their work-place and home. But now companies’ even seeking for personnel who are multi-talented and concept of being an ‘all-rounder’ has become crucial. So this pushes you doing a lot. When you are to do a lot, you need a lot of people who will be helping on it. But obviously people helping and at the same time they make considerable level of inconveniences. It becomes really hard to find what they actually thinking but their mouths say different words with a smile. Psychology only can be used to discover whether a person lying or not. But nowadays people are smarter than they were some years back and they know how to be steady even when they are lying. I would like if someone can invent a machine that actually tells what the other person thinks in the mind. I am writing it because I have had some experiences during last month with someone whose behaviors are hard to predict. Anyway each person has a good side as well another that seems so hard to predict. Only thing that can be a solution for everything is to understand and accept both the good and bad sides since it becomes not so logical to expect a person to be perfect at all. As I mentioned earlier, time will never be returned so it is better only having good memories. Even this minute in which am writing, also cannot be got again. I had almost nothing in my mind when started writing and in the middle I remembered something that happened few days back and it has automatically dragged my fingers in the keyboard to write on.

Are we so reluctant (from a Tamil’s perspective being a Tamil myself)

Being a Jaffna Tamil, I’ve been proud and will be for the whole life because us is the only society that still successfully survives with all kinds of circumstances, wounds and all unforgettable tearful memories of war. In any corner of the world, our people are there and other than some desecrated stories, others are doing well. What I meant by ‘desecrated stories’ is that most of our guys are surviving in such jobs which are really not suitable or not up to their standards. Even most of them find it as a ruin of their ‘self esteem’ and a painful way of living but what to do? They have spent a lot on going to such countries and of course they have lost a lot. Anyway they have to earn and this is one part of the ‘western Tamil society’. Other part remains somewhat green and it contributes those who had gone there several years ago and have stared their own businesses. It is strongly encourage able since these people don’t depend on anyone else and is good sign of achievement while being a war affected society. But what really lack with their business is that they are just satisfied with earning more than enough dollars or pounds or whatever but are failing in building good branded businesses. Might be because we are habited to think inside a small circle and it really stimulates a negative view on being creative. Here the war cannot be a reason since I am talking about those who had already gone abroad and enjoying a very comfortable life with ‘self employment’. If I have not mistaken, most of those people are involved in businesses such as’ supermarkets’ and ‘restaurants’. I do really happy that they are doing well, earning good profits but what if they do it in a large scale and brand it properly and adds some value to our society too? From each country, there are some guys who lead industries and they add values to their societies. Inside Sri Lanka also the same thing applies. What we do is we just complete our degrees and even masters and looking for a company to give a job, we do get it and staying there until the retirement and. I guess we are so fundamentals, so far away from entrepreneurship, so reluctant to think out of the box, so reluctant to keep our pairs of eyes to see this world differently and now we are in a position to think about it. Isn’t it?

Yes. You can achieve your dream….

Dreaming is an awesome experience. We do keep on dreaming for a promotion for the whole life being stuck in the same position. Sometimes we might be desecrated to sit there until the chair gets collapsed. Why? Is achieving a dream that difficult? Then how thousands of people could have already converted their dreams into real? There is no secret other than ‘hundred percent trust’ and ‘hard work’ behind their success stories. Take any leaders of the world. Mostly they might have born in remote villages somewhere in the world. No enough food, no technology, no entertainment, not enough money to even spend for their basic needs. Their only asset is ‘hard work’ and most importantly they have trusted in ‘things might change and one day they also can achieve’. Whenever you don’t have a specific thing or you have discrepancy, you get desire on it. If you don’t have money, you get mad at it and start working on gaining it. Have you ever thought that, if you really work hard, one day you also can become a boss? Everyone must dream to the utmost extent based on their ability and not to the threshold level. But I think major barrier to our lives is our own perceptions. We all do have our own perceptions and most of them are negative. At times, we feel ‘we cannot become successful’ or ‘How can I do that job’. But when we realize it is nothing for us or we are really better than we perceived, sadly the time would be gone. No one else to put the blame other than on our own heads. No option will available other than worrying. So don’t think you are nothing. You can do a lot. Try new things fearlessly. If it fails, learn from it. But try again. You might not be proud at you because you might not have made any good effort up to this minute. But start thinking proud of you just because there is no one else like you in the world. Don’t waste your time in worrying on who you are, what your background is, whether you are ugly or whatever, be positive. Just believe you can become a successful person in future. First of all, trust in yourself. That trust itself will lead you towards a green future.