Affirmations really work if you are looking for a change

I enjoy reading EBooks mostly in the fields of psychology and business. Yesterday I had some time and just spent a several minutes on reading an excellent EBook titled ‘Using affirmations for positive change’ written by anon writer. It is true ‘affirmations really work for change’. If you are looking for a change in life, then using affirmations will truly help you in doing this. Here I am just mentioning the information and the exercise provided in the book on how to use affirmations. Simple theory behind affirmations is ‘your thoughts reflect your behaviour and your behaviour changes your character’. Whenever you want change on a specific thing, you should raise positive vibrations on it. Let’s imagine you are fat and want to loose your weight. Then you should tell your conscious mind ‘I am slim and fit’. But on every occasion you looking at the mirror you feel like it is not true and therefore it is further stimulating a major doubt on it. Therefore it is better to say ‘I am becoming slim and fit’ and your conscious mind will have no means to doubt about it. Then you should repeat the positive verses several times a day. After a few months (obviously not days as it takes time) your conscious mind will start to transform this affirmation to subconscious mind. After that you will be able to see positive results on how affirmations work. The important things you must consider when practicing affirmations for change are; it is always essential to use positive verses (Ex: saying ‘I am becoming intelligent rather than saying I am not a fool’) and also it is better to use present tense (Ex: saying ‘I am becoming happy rather than saying I will be happy’) and most importantly you should believe what you are saying is true. If you think ‘this will never work’ then there is no point in wasting your time on it. Using Affirmations is just like programming you in a right way. So they work better. Next we will have a look at how they work. ‘Your mum rewarded you every time you did good things in your life by giving you chocolates. So you feel like rewarding whenever you eat chocolates since eating chocolates is connected as a reward in your subconscious mind.’ Thus eating chocolates may make you happy but this behaviour is not healthy if you are trying to loose your weight. So if this is how your subconscious mind influences your behaviour, then why you still have doubt in that you can change yourself by using affirmations. But the only thing here is that you should believe in ‘mind is the best and incomparable tool that influences yourself and therefore stimulating successes and failures of your life’.

The traditional five lands in Tamil literature

Tamil literature is almost based on traditional five lands which represent different lifestyles for each land. What I mentioned as lifestyle is ‘how they got means for their lives and the love contributed to their lifestyles’. Here love refers to the affection and romance between husband and wife and between lovers. First one is the ‘land representing people who lived in and near to mountain areas’. These people had made ‘animals’ as the only mean of living. Girls had pretty enough guys and the life was joyful for those who lived in this land. The second land is dedicated to people who lived near to forests. Since this land had no other options, men joined in territory force groups and soldier services and they were brave wealthy. Thus women in this land always desecrated to wait until their partners return to home. Most occasions were; some returned to home and some were not. Most important thing I must mention here is that there were celebrations for soldiers who returned with victory and meantime entombments also were arranged for those who died in wars. The third land is dedicated for people who lived in and near to sea. So their prime mean of life was ‘fishing and boating’. Men had to spend major part of their lives in sea. Here women spent on waiting for men in seashore until they come back from sea. The fourth land is dedicated to people who lived in park lands so their mean of living was ‘Agriculture and harvesting’. Husband and wife relationship was very strong and they had deep love while people in this land were naturally wealthy as they had no obstacles in gaining and saving wealth with their paddy fields. The fifth land is dedicated to people who lived near to deserts. So these people who lived near to wastelands had no means in finding meals and making their lives. Thus they started mugging from voyagers and from people who lived in other lands. At this juncture, the life was uncertain and women had to worry about whether their husbands had caught or attacked by someone.

Why men are so selfish?

I believe men are so selfish and lazy. I know it is not suitable for all but at least a few of you reading this piece may think it is you. Here the issue is why men are not helping their wives in kitchens. Is there any logic behind this? If you try to escape from me by saying ‘women are good at cooking’ then what about those guys who cook in restaurants? In this fast moving world, it is a must for both men and women to work hard in order to make their lives happy. But I don’t know why men are still thinking kitchens are only dedicated to women. Husbands always try to prison their wives in the kitchens. Earlier days most of the husbands had made the culture as a weapon of escaping from the question of why they are not helping their wives in the kitchens. Anyhow this is never going to be a valid reason for escaping. What I think of why husbands (Not all) are still not helping in the kitchens is because they feel it will spoil their image. Major percentage of men is thinking that their wives are given to cook for them. This perception is absolutely right from an idiot’s point of view. What is the point of being just a man if a woman can earn, cook, care well her family and do all work? I proudly (as I am also a young woman) say we are in a ‘women leading world’ since women remain first at all fields including sports, business, education, military and fashion etc. So a woman is both mentally and physically more powerful than a man. But most terrible part here is that men still want to dominate women by perceiving that they are the best.

Here I am listing what girls are not

Not robots
To make them to do whatever you want

Not chewing gums,
To chew

Not micro awns,
To cook fast and taste
Not angels
To give you all what you like

Finally
Girls are girls
They can’t be any other